The urge

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I keep wondering lately, is love something we control? Or does love control us?

Do we have power over our hearts? Or are we weakened by a gentle touch, a passionate kiss and a deep gaze into our souls?

Is love confused with familiarity and safety? Or does it build up until there’s no point denying that your heart now beats in harmony with someone else’s?

When you’re mutually terrified, is this a sign that you’re about to enter a wonderful adventure, or are you prone to repeating the mistakes of the past? What is this terror? Why are we scared of being wounded again? Why is pain always directing our decisions the older we get? Why does love equate to being hurt, even in its early blossoming stages?

The scars we carry remind us of them, those lovers we adored, those lovers we hated. Those lovers who showed us the world and then destroyed us.

Fighting the urge to feel is the hardest torture a heart can endure. But a heart that has shattered and healed is fragile..tender.. it’s a newborn heart wondering, wandering in the endless maze of solitude and companionship.

It’s terrifying it isn’t it? The thought of opening up to someone again..sharing a life with someone, fusing together. But maybe, this time, you’ll make it right, you’ll do it better, you’ll understand that even though you’re together, your identities remain separate, your differences are acknowledged yet understood, after all that’s the whole point isn’t it? Being with someone who completes you, not defines you.

How to lose a girl..in 10 minutes

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The sun is up and “love” (or let’s call it casual courting, shall we?) is back in the air!

Guys are at the gym everyday, girls are getting skinnier and more tanned already, and the hook up Lebanese culture is on its way back, with a vengeance. How did it become like that?

I don’t know who should be held responsible for the emasculation of men and objectification of women, but somewhere in the middle society shifted from “I think I met the man/woman of my dreams” to ” See ya later, I’m going home with this one tonight”.

Guys, we know there are a few of you good ones left out there, but here are some guidelines on how not to repel a possibly mature strong minded woman out of your way and a possibility of a second date with you.

1- Lose the golden chain around your neck: We might like you but we don’t need to put some bling on you. You don’t need to be doing that to yourself either, it is an instant girl repellant, and I mean instant.

2- Don’t brag about your past sexual adventures: Bottom line, we know you’ve been around the block, even more than once, just don’t rub it in our faces because we don’t really care who you’ve boned before. Unless it’s Angelina Jolie, then go ahead and tell us details.

3- Take it easy with your body language:  If it’s a first date and you’re expecting something, go home. There’s something called personal space, have you heard of it? If not, don’t be surprised if you never hear from us again.

4- You’re a 34 year old passionate artist and struggling philosopher but you still live with/off your parents: This sums it up pretty much.

5- You still party like you’re 18: Well. An occasional party or 2 are cool, but if you’re in your 30’s and still think every weekend is an excuse to go over the top with your drinking and what comes with it, Uh-NO.

6- You’re mean to the waiter but nice to everyone else: This says a lot about how you treat others. It’s a big turn off.

7- Eye contact is essential: We know we have a nice rack, just look above our chest when we’re trying to have a decent conversation.

You don’t have to be a douche to impress us, we’re turned on by good manners, chivalry and an intellectual conversation.